Sunday, February 17, 2013

Tomorrow is.....
I wonder if I'll see my family....

My one and only child is now going on 23 years old. I don't really get to see her very much... though I feel her presence every time I walk past her disaster zone bedroom. Today I had to close the door - it looks like 10, no 20, suitcases exploded in there. Her room is more like a walk-in closet than somewhere you would sleep and do homework.

Yes, she has a boyfriend. They've been together over a year now and she spends most of her spare time at his house. He is a single child also and has a "bachelor pad" down in the basement of his parents' house. His mom is a different kind of mom than I am. She keeps her fridge and freezer stocked with their favorite, easy-to-make foods like frozen pizzas and other "instant foods".  At my house you actually have to use ingredients to prepare something to eat. She's a very nice person, this mom, don't get me wrong but I see my role as trying to prepare Kazi to be independent whereas this mom is very enabling. As long as she continues to cater to their every whim they'll be living in her basement.

Oh well, what can you do? Times have really changed. When I was my daughter's age I had been renting my own apartment for 3 years, had purchased my first car and had been working in a bank supporting myself on my measly income. I still remember my first yearly salary - $6,250.00. Wowzer!! I cleared $98 per week! Nowadays kids young adults don't want entry level jobs and they don't a job that they don't LOVE! Well good luck with that! I didn't start my teaching career til I was 36 years old after I put myself through university and teacher's college as a mature student while raising my daughter as a single parent.

But I have no regrets and most of this post is written with tongue firmly placed in cheek :) Sooner or later our kids will grow up, some sooner, some later. My daughter is well-educated and has always had one or two or three part-time jobs at a time. I think she'll find her niche and a job that is meant just for her. Some day. In the meantime she still has a lot of maturing to do and a lot to learn about life. And I'll always be there to catch her when she falls. It's still me she turns to when times get tough.



  1. I'm sure the lessons you've taught your daughter growing up will come in handy in the future. There will come a time when she thinks, thank goodness my mom taught me something about cooking! I do believe it is a bit more difficult these days for kids. More education is required to get a job and the wages are quite poor in relation to what is needed to pay for an apartment and transportation. Maybe I'm biased as I have friends in this type of situation but it seems like it's frustrating for both parents and kids.

  2. I think kids are growing up a little slower nowadays. They want to be independent yet sometimes take what they have for granted. But I know you raised her right! I myself learn from you every day:)

  3. That's nice to hear Lena! Thank you!

  4. She does say from time to time that she's glad she hasn't had everything just handed to her. She has friends whose parents paid for everything and they have never even had a part-time job...ever! I have to say she's a hard working young woman!

  5. I think they are more spoiled these days simply because we only have one or two of them whereas in the past it was normal to have five or six kids. And everybody had to pitch in and help out. Now we are raising only one or two like they were royalty or something!


Thank you for your comment - it means a lot to me that you read my post and are leaving a comment - you just made my day!